Chris, & all you wonderful people who have changed my life at Kinsolving:
I do not know how to express my enormous thanks to all of you. I am forwarding some emails to you from my BM & her daughter so that you can share all the incredibly wonderful emotional experiences that are going on - that Kinsolving was responsible for:
I am having dinner with my BF in a week.
I just now mailed a hard copy of the contract this afternoon. I am so excited, it feels like Christmas, nothing makes me more happy than giving to others,, even if this turns out very bad, at least I will have given my aunt the peace of finally knowing what happened to her daughter, thank you guys so much for what you do, you changed my life 7 years ago and gave me peace, nothing is worse than not knowing. When you guys found my family for me, it opened up a giant can of worms, OMG, some really hurtful things and sad things and things that made me so...so happy I thought I could fly. I am thinking about writing a book , pretty lame right? It will be a long one, and surely not boring, anyway thank you! look forward to hearing from you. FYI I went from having one brother to having seven brothers and 3 sisters.
Christine, Thank you so much for this. I will send you a progress update on what happens from this point forward.
I would like to personally thank you for closing a huge door that was open in my life. While I know there are many other challenges that I might face meeting my family, you have given me for the first time in my life information on who I am as a person and the hope I can finally see other people who I resemble and understand who and what I am.
God bless you
I have intended to write before now, but have been in such a happy fog, I did not get to it. My daughter and I have communicated briefly since Dec. 23 and I hope to meet her soon.The holidays, etc. have prevented that from happening, as yet. She, her husband and my son did meet for lunch and had a wonderful, fun time. He said they just kept staring at each other...was a bit like looking into a mirror. She is almost identical in looks and personality to my youngest daughter. Both my other two daughters have sent her lots of pictures and they are slowly getting to know each other. We are trying to take this by baby steps...not wanting to completely overwhelm her or ourselves, but I can hardly wait to spend some time with her in person. I am amazed that we have practically lived in each others back yards for most of these years, she and my son were at the same college at the same time (they both breathed a sigh of relief that they did not date each other!!!).....on and on it goes.
So..........now I have 4 children and 8 grandchildren...how wonderful. I can not thank you enough for having the know-how to get this done. Keep doing it ...you are changing lives for the better.
There is no way that I can ever thank you enough for the search. You have made my life complete
Chris, It is been nine years since you found my birthson for me. I think about you often and wanted to update you. We have the most wonderful and loving relationship any mother and son could have. I now have a 3-1/2 year old grand-daughter by he and his wife who was named after my middle name Elizabeth. I am best friends with his loving adoptive mother. We all spent Christmas Eve and morning together. My youngest son now 38 and my birthson are enjoying a brotherly relationship of canoeing and camping, hanging out and sharing stories of their childhoods. What a blessing. Thank you for your service.
You may use any portion of this as a testimony of your abilities to perform great services of bringing families back to gether again.
Your office found my birth mother for me back in 2001 and it was a success story. My mother was very young when I was born and no husband/boyfriend to help so after 10 months she gave me up for what she thought would be a better life. So some it up, we are close and both are very glad about finding each other.
Just thought about you and wanted to update you.
CT - North Car
I am sorry that I have not written a testimonial sooner, but will do so now! I met with my mother and it was a great meeting. I brought my oldest daughter with me too. Our meeting took place in Arkansas, at my cousins home, He and his wife are two of the several family members who know about me. She is still unsure of when she will let her other nieces and nephews know, if at all. It is hard to disclose long kept secrets at 92 years of age. I am fine with whatever she decides.
My mother is scheduled for surgery this week, which was supposed to occur earlier, but is finally taking place. I am hoping she continues to stay healthy and that the surgery does not take too much out of her. We are hoping for another reunion, maybe in Massachusetts in the spring/summer, when she will meet her son-in-law and her two other grandchildren. I have also been able to do some research on my birth fathers family, I am so fortunate to have this information. I am attaching a picture of our visit for you, but
please do not include in the testimonial yet!
Here is my testimonial:
After searching for my birth mother for over 30 years, I finally turned to Kinsolving. I had followed many avenues in search of a birth parent, even going to court in the state of Illnois, all to no avail. I had some non-identifying information and my amended birth certificate. I had always suspected that my mother had given an alias for her name, but could not be sure. I also knew that I was born out of wedlock and my father had been married to someone other than my mother.
Kinsolving terminated my search this past July, since after two years they were unable to find a next of kin. In the meantime, I had given up any hope of finding my mother alive - she would now be 92 - and was hoping to possibly find half-siblings. I had also given up any hope of ever knowing who my father might be, since siblings may not have even been aware of my mothers relationship with my father. When I received the notice from Kinsolving I was very disheartened and realized I had done everything in my power to find a relative, but would have to make peace with the fact that I was unable to do so.
In late September, almost exactly two months after the Kinsolving termination, I received a call one evening from Kinsolving. He explained that while doing a search in the Chicago area, he came across my file and thought he could find some information for me. He said that while the search had technically been terminated, searches were never completely disregarded. He too, thought that my mothers name may have been an alias, but said that she would have never been able to make up the name of the town she
I was careful not to get my hopes up and thanked them for their continued effort.
Two days later I received the call I had been waiting for. Kinsolving told me they had found my mother and that she was alive, living on her own, and cognitively "with it". I was in shock, to say the least. I then received, from Kinsolving, information about my birth mother and her family, dating back to the 1800s!
Now, with her phone number in my hand, it was up to me to make the call. I waited until the evening when my husband was with me for moral support. My mother was thrilled to hear from me and said she had thought of me every day and had always hoped I would find her. She never married and had a successful career in the Chicago area for many years. At one time, we lived less than two miles apart from each other. I was a flight attendant for many years. My mother was a TWA flight attendant, and she told me my father had been a Braniff pilot. So, after 61 years of not knowing who my birth parents were, I had all the information I had been seeking. I also learned that my father had died in 1958. He had no other children either.
Since that call, I have met my lovely mother, My oldest daughter met her also, and we are trying to plan a reunion for her to meet her son- in-law and two other grandchildren. We are still getting to know each other via phone calls and letters. I have also done some research on my birth father and his family which has been enlightening.
I consider my completed search nothing short of a miracle, thanks to Kinsolving. My story has a happy ending and I only wish I had contacted Kinsolving earlier in my search.
Jeanne (Boston, MA)
I do want to thank Kinsolving for finding my son. I started searching when he turned 18. You were the third company I had hired and I really did not have any expectations about him being found. When I received the information I was shocked. Matthew lives 5 min. from my house. Even though he was not told he was adopted he had some doubt and we talked for 30 min. the first night I called him. Within a week we went together for a DNA test and that confirmed it. It was a great feeling finally knowing who he is. Thank you and everyone involved that helped with my case.
Dear Christine, I am not sure if you remember me or not- I hired you back in (I believe 2002) to find my birth mother. I had spent months searching for her- visiting the hospital I was born in, searching adoption sites online, visiting with the lawyer who handled the adoption, and even placing an ad in the paper...with no luck. However, you found her within 2 days. Amazing. Since then I have had some wonderful conversations with her and have exchanged pictures on several occasions. She has had an incredibly difficult life in so many ways, but was so incredibly relieved to hear from me. To be able to say "thank you" to her was just amazing. It has been a very slow and emotional process but I plan to go to visit her this summer to finally meet with her in person. I cannot thank you enough for the closure and relief that your services brought me.
Jessica, New York
Well, that is it then. you guys were awesome, I really appreciate it. I am envious of the fact that your job has the capacity to bring so much meaningful joy into peoples lives. If I can not send you wine or some silly stereotypical California touristy item, hopefully I will at least get a chance to pass some referrals your way if I encounter anyone searching!
Jerry - Louisiana